Admittedly this blog will be longer then most as I'd like to provide an origin story for Connor. So let's rewind a bit before we start talking about the journey that led to this blog…..
How I Met Your Mother:
It was around 2006-2007 when Barbara (Bob) and I first met. We met though a mutual friend, Shannon - Bob went to high school with her and I met her through friends. It was funny because Shan had originally told me that I was not her type and that it wouldn't work. Shan introduced me to her anyway along with her high school friends and that's where our two worlds started to integrate. Through out the year we all hung out, partied, BBQ'd, played sports, etc.
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| Barbara's Birthday - Agenda, Downtown San Jose (05-09-2007) |
As it turned out, Bob and I had tremendous chemistry and on March 17, 2007, we officially started dating. After about 1+ years, I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her and I ended up proposing to her in July 2008 and we were married on October, 24, 2009 at Ruby Hills Golf Course in Pleasanton. This was originally the best day of my life….
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| Ruby Hills Golf Course - Barbara and Bryant's Wedding (10-24-09) |
Kids? We're not ready….
So fast forward a few years…Barbara and I had always talked about starting a family, but we wanted to enjoy the marriage phase of our life for a few years and then start thinking about kids. Little did we know a "few years" = 4 and some change. Over the years we enjoyed spending time together watching movies, figuring out what our favorite shows would be, traveling, and just enjoying not having major responsibilities such as having a kid. The main joy here is really having the freedom to go out when we wanted to, stay out late, travel on a whim, etc.
We originally started to try and have a kid around January/February of 2012. We had read books and read articles online on how to get pregnant and we thought that it would be a piece of cake. Little did we know that creating life in this world would actually be hard work and was more then we bargained for. Go forward to about September 2012 and imagine two individuals who had wanted something so badly, but had months and months of heartbreak and frustration. We didn't realize how much of an evil monster Facebook was until we had to endure this type of pain. Mainly Facebook is used by many to show off their many accomplishments in life and we were at that age where all couples around us were posting announcements & pictures of their future/current kids on a daily basis. Even though we wanted to share in others joy, it felt like a consistent slap in the face and reinforced the fact that we were failures. We were so embarrassed that we never told anyone that we were even trying and had to lie about the fact that we didn't really want a baby. To be fair, we have AWESOME friends & family that have provided us great support - but this was something that Bob and I felt like we had to endure on our own. We finally sought out help at a infertility clinic where the doctors would check us out to figure out the cause. Though after months and months of tests and poor Barbara having to take daily pills and even poke herself with needles, we started losing hope.
On March 24, 2013 - I had just returned from a business trip to China and Bob had decided to take a blood test that day to see if she happened to be pregnant. We both didn't have high hopes, but it ended up being a "what do we have to lose" type of moment. As we were running errands, Barbara decided to check her e-mail and saw that she had already received her results. I distinctly remember that we were waiting at the light of San Tomas Expressway and Homestead where she said "No way!" in pure disbelief. She checked her phone again and again and said again "No way!" where this finally got my attention and she showed me her results. I don't remember the technical term, but there was a field that said "Pregnancy = Positive" - we both cried on the spot and I gave her the best hug I could while at a green light (not advisable btw). This day was one that I'd never forget as this was the first day I could say "We're going to be parents" and this will end up being in my top 5 memorable moments of our lives.
Admittedly, we were a little skeptical because there was another blood test needed that week to confirm. So we tried not to have our hopes high, but it was difficult not to be overjoyed and hopeful. The worst part about that week is that I had to fly to Tucson the next day on a business trip and I wouldn't have been back until that Friday.
Barbara took that blood test that Wednesday and received the results. She texted/called me that night and confirmed it - we were having a baby! Once again we cried and let ourselves get excited for the first time in months. We talked about what if it's a boy? How about a girl? What would we name him/her? What traits do you have him/her to have? It was an amazing day and the only bad part is that we had to celebrate remotely. We did approach things cautiously from there mainly because the first 3 months are really critical and usually had the highest risk of a miscarriage. Given what we went through, we tried to calm our fears until we got through those 3 months.
As this story continues, we'll show the first pictures of Connor and show a progression of Barbara through out the months…..
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